Who's Your Mama? by Rose Anderson

The second Sunday in May is Mother's Day and moms everywhere will go to brunch or receive bouquets and Mother's Day cards. While the holiday is celebrated in the United States and elsewhere, it didn't start out as a hat tip for mom.

In the 1850s when infant mortality was at a high, a West Virginia women's organizer named Ann Reeves Jarvis, held Mothers' Working Days. These social action clubs worked together to fight disease and milk contamination by improving the sanitary conditions in their cities and towns. After the Civil War, Ann Reeves Jarvis saw a need to support every mother's son no matter what side of the Mason-Dixon line they had been on. She organized Mother's Friendship Day for Union and Confederate soldiers.

After Ann Reeves Jarvis' passing in 1908, her daughter Anna organized the first Mother's Day. So impressed by moms and their continual good works, President Woodrow Wilson liked the idea of a day just for mom. In 1914, he officially set aside the second Sunday in May for a national holiday devoted to moms everywhere. It didn't take long before florists, card companies, confectioners, and other merchants cashed in on its popularity.

As wonderful an idea as a national Mother's Day was, Anna Jarvis didn't appreciate marketing on a national scale nor the fact Eleanor Roosevelt (and others) used Mother's Day to raise funds for charities. She actually worked against it by staging boycotts, threatening lawsuits, and deriding the First Lady. She even got herself arrested more than once over it. Seems rather extreme. Perhaps it was because Anna Jarvis had had an unresolved falling out with her own mother. Perhaps she just wanted to acknowledge the ideal mom and not her own. From the start, she only ever wanted a day when you wore a Mother's Day badge to church and thanked the best mom you knew for all she did. No flowers, no card, no candy, and certainly no monies to charities. It's interesting to note the changes to Anna Jarvis' initial idea, and her failed attempt to stop a national holiday, might have actually driven her insane. She died in a Philadelphia sanitarium in 1948 at age 84.

Mama Mia

The American iteration of Mother’s Day has its particular origins as do Mother's Day celebrations around the world. Most celebrate this holiday in the spring. Why? Spring is when all of nature renews. It's mother nature's time of year. From egg laying to birthing, creatures large and small get in on the action. This renewal has always been an important part of our own survival whether on the farm or in our earliest times as hunter gatherers. Honoring mom is a very old tradition.

When I imagine a primordial mother, the first image that comes to mind is the Venus of

Willendorf. She's not one of those slender goddesses in repose in the idyll glades of Ancient Greece, nor is she a sleek-muscled warrior goddess of the old Nordic traditions. Plumped by plenty and filled with fecundity, her wide hips and bountiful breasts declare her fertility and suggest her sustenance. She's the middle aspect of womanhood. No longer maiden, not quite crone. She is the Magna Mater – The Great Mother.

To date, hundreds of similar Mother figures carved of stone and bone and fashioned of clay have been discovered all over the world. Large-breasted or not, most have those wide hips. You can almost imagine the toddler sitting comfortably astride.

Given their great age, it's unfortunate that we can only speculate on their exact purpose. The earliest Mothers are faceless. Such anonymity suggests she was beyond personification. Many wear the scars of motherhood on hips, belly, and breasts in acknowledgement of cycles – the cycles of life and birth – an undeniable symbol of the earth itself.

These Great Mothers, reverently called the Venus figures, span both Paleolithic and Neolithic eras. Some, like the Hohle Fels mammoth-ivory Venus, date back more 30,000 years. Older still are the chevrons –zigzags, M, or V patterns – in 40,000-year-old Neanderthal artworks. These too represent woman and are often depicted beside the wavy lines symbol for water – birth waters.

As a storyteller, I can see that The Great Mother never really left the scene. She became those goddesses worshiped across ancient civilizations. Donning the clothes of each region, she simply modernized. Moms are resourceful like that.

~ More information ~

This youtube video is more than an hour long but entertaining and very informative
https://youtu.be/DKKLOIrQs6Y

Individual figures with descriptions
http://donsmaps.com/venus.html

A terrific poster
http://goddesstimeline.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/MainTimeline.jpg

Two more videos
http://goddesstimeline.com/?page_id=320

Happy Mother's Day to all you moms, aunts, and grandmas, and to all

nurturing souls everywhere. Keep up the good work!

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Rose Anderson is an award-winning author and dilettante who loves great conversation and delights in discovering interesting things to weave into stories. Rose also writes across genres under the pen name Madeline Archer. She lives with her family and small menagerie amid oak groves and prairie in the rolling glacial hills of the upper Midwest.

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Women and Marriage...

Arranged Marriage – Marriage of Convenience – Marriage for Love

There’s been a lot of talk recently about women’s rights, and how we must not lose the ground we’ve gained.

As romance authors, we deal in marriage and ‘matters of the heart’ on a regular basis. In our times, we equate marriage with love and personal choice. But, things have not always been so pleasant for women in the marriage department.

Long ago, many cultures worshiped the great Mother Goddess. She was found all over ancient Europe and known by many names – Venus von Willendorf, Cybelle, and Anu/Danu – to name a few. Goddesses appearing more recently, in the Greek, Irish, Norse and Roman traditions, were often depicted as vibrant, outspoken, free women who were in all ways equal – if not superior – to their male counterparts.

That being said, I've always sensed a darker story attached to Persephone’s abduction. The beautiful young goddess was taken against her will to the Underworld by Hades. She is held captive in the dark, away from the beauty and light of the free world, at the mercy of a man she doesn’t love. Temporary freedom is always contingent upon her return to his dark world. It is the story of the disempowerment of a goddess. 

Some ancient societies respected women more than others. In Ireland between the 7th to 17th Centuries, Brehon law existed. It allowed women more freedom and property rights than most European women enjoyed at the time. A woman could choose her own husband, and decide to divorce him. She was often able to keep her property, and the wealth accumulated during the marriage was split between marriage partners.

The irony is that in the 800s and 900s, Viking raiders invaded Ireland and kidnapped Irish women to sell off as slaves in faraway Muslim countries. Between the Barbary pirates of North Africa and Viking warriors, the coastlines of Ireland and England were frequently plundered. Men, women and children were taken captive and sold into servitude as slaves on the auction blocks of Africa. They were treated as sexual pawns and pack animals. Slavery was a thriving business in those days.

The harsh reality of life in Victorian England one hundred and fifty years ago is that it wasn’t much different from slavery. Florence Fenwick Miller, a midwife who lived from 1854-1935, declared the plight of Victorian women was little more than legal slavery, where a woman was entirely dependent on the whims of a man for decent treatment. A woman’s husband, father, or brother was like her master. She had no say in who she would marry, and any family fortune she inherited became her husband’s property – along with her – no matter how he treated her.

Of course there are exceptions -- there always are -- but few women enjoyed them.

One of the greatest advantages for women in our modern western world is our right to choose our husbands. Most of us marry for love, but some marry for financial reasons, a particular lifestyle, or even to gain entry to a country otherwise off limits. Even then, the woman chooses her mate. And taking this to another level, she can decide to marry another woman now, or live together without marriage, or to remain alone.

The daughters of immigrants from countries where marriage is still traditionally arranged – such as India – have a challenging task. They must often seek a way to juggle old cultural traditions and family expectations with their new world lifestyles. 

We’ve come such a long way. We can pursue love on our terms. 

Please share your thoughts and stories with us today.