“Nothing in the
world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more
common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is
almost a proverb. Education alone will not; the world is full of educated
derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”
― Calvin Coolidge
― Calvin Coolidge
This is one of my favorite quotes. I kept
a copy of it tacked to my bulletin board in my cubby at work. I used it to
remind myself that if I wanted to publish books I had to keep writing through
rejections, setbacks, disappointments and the advice of naysayers who told me
to give up. Another quote I read early in my writing career, “Writers who give
up never publish,” became my mantra.
When I started writing seriously with the
hope of publication (I’d written poetry and started a historical romance during
my teen years), I had an uphill fight to battle my own self-doubts. I joined
RWA, found a newly formed local chapter of RWA and proceeded to learn all I
could about the creative and business sides of writing.
There were ten of us in that new chapter,
most newbies like me, a few more seasoned writers, none of us published. This
was before ebooks and indie publishing. Only print publishers existed then and
we were all desperate to sell to one of them. I think if you’d taken a poll of
the members at that time and asked which of us was the least likely to publish,
they’d pick me. Maybe that’s my insecurity talking, but I felt they were all so
much more talented. Whenever we had a critique session, I’d come home feeling
whipped, tail between my legs, convinced I’d never sell a book. Out of that
group, I’m the only one still writing seriously, and only the third one to
publish anything.
Two of those original ten members, who
wrote as a team (I consider them one writer) became my mentors and I’ll be
forever grateful to them. They were excellent writers and we all knew they’d
publish. And they did. They went on to publish six books with Kensington. Then
they quit and dropped off the Earth, or so it seems. I’ve lost contact with
them and I don’t know why they quit writing. It makes me sad because they were
my friends and were very talented writers. Another member sold one book to an
epub, a very good book, then quit. She now spends her days babysitting her
grandkids. That’s her choice. I suspect she wanted to publish a book to say she
could, and that was it.
That chapter broke up a long time ago and
I’ve lost touch with most of the members. I do know they’ve all stopped writing,
except for one member, a good friend and critique partner, who has been writing the same book for fifteen years.
She is very talented, and even sold a short story to a national magazine when
she was in high school. She decided a long time ago that her husband’s needs would
always come before her own. He doesn’t like her to write so she only writes
when it doesn’t interfere with something he wants to do. That wouldn’t be my
choice but she seems happy with it. It saddens me to see talent wasted.
Many people decide they want to write a
book, then for whatever reasons, they stop. Life interferes and priorities
change. I get that. I’m not faulting anyone for giving up their writing and
going onto other things. I admit that, despite my determination, there were
times when I considered quitting. Times when I’ve felt beaten down by
rejections. Writing is not for the faint-hearted. A writer has to have the soul
of a poet and the hide of a rhinoceros. Sometimes my hide wasn’t thick enough.
But I pulled myself up out of the murky waters of gloom and kept writing.
Was I more talented than the others in
that original chapter? Absolutely not. Luckier? I doubt it. Did I persevere?
Hell, yes. Despite rejections, mean-spirited letters from agents and editors,
mean contest comments, I kept going. I went to workshops, conferences, learned
all I could. After ten long, hard years, I made my first sale, to Avalon Books.
When I joined RWA, a controversy was
brewing over whether the organization should allow unpublished authors to be
full members. Some published authors believed all of us unpublished ones should
be kicked out of RWA. I’ll always remember a letter to the editor published in
RWR Magazine, written by a published author. She said the vast majority of us
unpublished writers would never publish (she was right, but her tone was very
mean-spirited). She went on to say that if we weren’t getting positive
rejection letters and winning contests, we had no business writing and to just
go away and quit tainting the organization. I wasn’t winning contests or
getting positive rejection letters. Quite the contrary. Did her remarks make me
quit? No. They made me angry and more determined than ever to prove her wrong.
Writing is so much a part of me I
can’t quit even if I never sell another thing. The moral of this little essay:
if you have a fire in your belly for something, don’t let your own self-doubt
or the misgivings of others keep you from your dream.
I hope all of you, writers and
non-writers, take inspiration from this. Never give up and don’t listen to the
naysayers.
The picture above, taken June 2013, is of
me and my cousin Luigi who was visiting from Italy . My husband and I acted as
his tour guides to Philadelphia and Luigi wanted
to see the Rocky statue at the Philadelphia
Art Museum
