Everyone talks about June weddings. How about Christmas holiday season weddings?
We'll be celebrating our 45th anniversary on 27 December...yes, two days after Christmas. We dated, got engaged, and married withing 6 months. Sometimes, you just KNOW who your soul mate should be and go for it, despite questions of "Are you sure? You haven't known each other very long."
The first time I danced with my husband and we talked, I said to myself, "This is someone I could bring home to meet my mother." Funny thought...but I felt so at ease with him and knew my family would approve.
I think about those couples who've lived together for years, get married...and then split up. Have relatives and friends who fit into this category. Did they really understand each other?
We had actually planned a June wedding, but my roommate at the time told me in November 1970 that she was moving out in December (to follow her married lover to Hawaii...yes, she was an idiot). I couldn't afford rent by myself, doubted if I could find a roommate for 6 months, and we didn't want to live together until June. (Keep in mind, this was 1970 and my parents would have disapproved, even though I lived 10 hours from home).
So, we planned a December wedding, and actually getting married so close to Christmas worked in our favor. The reception hall and church had all the flowers/decorations we needed. Everything was organized very quickly. We even had some snowflakes that day...you can see the specks in the photo!
We got married, and I'd do it all again!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to Everyone!
http://www.mariannestephens.net
http://www.romancebooks4us.com
http://naughtyliterati.com
Naughty List Anthology: My story: Dear Santa - I Want a Man for Christmas
Blurb: Frustrated with untrustworthy men, Melissa orders a man doll. When
delivery guy, Nick, shows up, she has second thoughts about how to
satisfy her needs.
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Monday, December 14, 2015
Sunday, January 18, 2015
Personal Sexual Arousal Syndrome
Imagine you’re sitting at a meeting/eating at a crowded restaurant/giving a speech…anywhere, doing anything…and you have the sudden urge to climax. This “hush-hush” syndrome sounds like ecstasy, but can be a living hell.
Just how often do women who have this have orgasms? Everyday? Ten times a day?
Would you believe there’s a woman who claims to have up to 200 orgasms a day?
The idea of being in a constant state of sexual arousal and having to experience the joy of climaxing…while in the most inappropriate places at the most inconvenient times…certainly detracts from the whole concept of relishing that lovemaking thrill.
Possible causes of PSAS:
1. Neurological hypersensitivity (some women claim the syndrome started after taking anti-depressants) or trauma to the pelvic nerves.
2. Pelvic vein congestion.
3. Over-sensitivity to Progesterone.
4. No/delayed release of hormone Prolactin.
5. Deficiency of Oxytocin from the pituitary gland, needed for calming down after sex.
Information is scarce…and treatment on a trial basis…but a good source is:
http://www.medindia.net/patients/patientinfo/persistent-sexual-arousal-syndrome.htm
Can a romance heroine experience this syndrome? And, how would the hero react? An interesting thought to ponder!
Marianne Stephens
http://www.mariannestephens.net
http://www.romancebooks4us.com
http://naughtyliterati.com - Check website for anthologies:
Naughty List - available now
Naughty Hearts - releasing in February

Photo: Flickr: Bitchbuzz’s photostream.
Just how often do women who have this have orgasms? Everyday? Ten times a day?
Would you believe there’s a woman who claims to have up to 200 orgasms a day?
The idea of being in a constant state of sexual arousal and having to experience the joy of climaxing…while in the most inappropriate places at the most inconvenient times…certainly detracts from the whole concept of relishing that lovemaking thrill.
Possible causes of PSAS:
1. Neurological hypersensitivity (some women claim the syndrome started after taking anti-depressants) or trauma to the pelvic nerves.
2. Pelvic vein congestion.
3. Over-sensitivity to Progesterone.
4. No/delayed release of hormone Prolactin.
5. Deficiency of Oxytocin from the pituitary gland, needed for calming down after sex.
Information is scarce…and treatment on a trial basis…but a good source is:
http://www.medindia.net/patients/patientinfo/persistent-sexual-arousal-syndrome.htm
Can a romance heroine experience this syndrome? And, how would the hero react? An interesting thought to ponder!
Marianne Stephens
http://www.mariannestephens.net
http://www.romancebooks4us.com
http://naughtyliterati.com - Check website for anthologies:
Naughty List - available now
Naughty Hearts - releasing in February

Photo: Flickr: Bitchbuzz’s photostream.
Wednesday, January 14, 2015
Prologues and Epilogues - Do You Like/Want Them?
I've often wondered if readers enjoy reading prologues and epilogues in romance books. As a reader, I like reading a prologue, especially if it sets up the story. Reading epilogues gives a future "look" into the hero and heroine's tale and takes me beyond the "Happily-Ever-After" ending so I can witness for myself just how their future unfolded.
I wrote one book using a prologue. When I first thought about writing "Streets of Dreams"(by Marianne Stephens), using a prologue popped into my head as the best way to gain reader interest right away. The prologue is in the killer's point of view, and I hoped it would capture a reader's immediate attention.
Epilogues. I've written them in my nonfiction books, but not in any romance books. Maybe I like finishing a fictional romance story so that no epilogue is needed...the reader can be fully satisfied just with my story's end?
But, I like reading both prologues and epilogues. I like that glimpse into the past and future. A prologue can eliminate some "backstory" insertions in the book so can be helpful to the writer. Epilogues can be helpful for those writing a series...an author can use this technique to hint at the next series book and inspire curiosity and interest. Or, for single titles, it can just give the reader a "little something extra" about what happens after that final chapter.
What do you prefer? Do you enjoy reading/writing Prologues? Epilogues? Both? Neither?
http://www.mariannestephens.net
http://naughtyliterati.com
Information for the following books can be found on the Naughty Literati website:
Naughty List Anthology available NOW!
Naughty Hearts Anthology releasing in February.
Thursday, December 18, 2014
Guest Blog: Suz deMello: Herding Cats: The Joy and Challenge of Organizing a Boxed Set
Some of you may remember this Super Bowl commercial—it’s one of my favorites. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pk7yqlTMvp8
At the end of the commercial, here’s how the company, EDS, promotes itself:
In a sense, it’s what we do. We bring together information, ideas and technologies and make them go where you want. EDS—managing the complexities of the digital economy.
A few months ago, my primary publisher underwent a corporate contraction which, unfortunately, garnered an outsize amount of adverse publicity. Authors were concerned about a variety of events which might take place. On the yahoogroup I set up so we could privately exchange information, I read fear, worry, anger...but candidly, little action.
I don’t consider myself a leader. In fact, more than one group I’ve been in has lost steam and foundered, so often I wondered if I was some sort of Jonah, a bad-luck jinx. But I do prefer action, so after a while I proposed that we take the energy we’d been expending on negative speculation and focus it on something positive.
I proposed creating a holiday boxed set. Thus was born the Naughty Literati, a group of thirteen authors who have, as our website says, “come together to show off their epic talents in short stories filled with powerful eroticism and satisfying romance.”
Why short stories? The timeline was short, so I suggested short stories. That may change. And because some were leery of too much structure, I kept it loose. Although the conventional wisdom is that readers don’t like subgenre mixing—M/M mixed in with F/M, for example—I didn’t care. I’m not interested in telling anyone how to do her art. If someone wanted to write M/M, cool. If someone wanted to contribute a ménage story, equally cool. Although the Naughty Literati all came from a publisher of erotic romance, I pushed for no set heat level. I felt sure that there would be plenty of hot sex, but I wasn’t going to decree XXX or BDSM.
Because every writer in the NL is a professional, I felt comfortable with few rules and I think others are also.
It’s been sort of a “seat of the pants” undertaking—the organizational equivalent of being a pantser as opposed to a plotter. But because I have a legal background, and used to run a law practice, I tend to be highly organized. I tried to think ahead, to anticipate issues before they arose.
We benefited by being a group of highly motivated, talented, smart and responsible individuals. Each of us brings gifts others may lack. Nic Austin is a wizard with Photoshop and has created beautiful covers and logos, plus the blog and the website. Marianne Stephens is my right-hand gal, my co-organizer, my sounding board. I can’t begin to say how glad I am she’s there for me. Regina Kammer “concatenates” like nobody’s business. Everyone stepped up to edit, copyedit, promote...there’s a myriad of tasks to complete.
There were challenges, of course. Primary among them, for me, is my naturally strong personality. I’m dominating and have the paddle and floggers to prove it. I had to rein myself in, occasionally reminding the others, “Hey, I’m not the Queen. I don’t have a tiara or Corgis.” (Damn. I like Corgis.) And I had to keep people on task without, quite frankly, being an asshole about it.
Whenever there was a potential point of disagreement, I took the easy way out. I put issues up for a vote. I have to say that while many diss Yahoo, their polling feature has been invaluable, as well as files, photo storage and databases. Communication was relatively easy.
Initial challenges: creating a loose but meaningful contract. Getting everyone to sign it (thank you, Docusign) without being a jerk about it. I felt that the arithmetic associated with divvying up the royalties could lead to serious issues, so I persuaded everyone to hire an outside company for that very purpose. The same company has handled publishing and distribution as well, for a portion of the royalties.
What can I say right now, when we’re in the midst of promoting the first boxed set, except so far so good? And it is good. The boxed set is selling nicely. Even better, the mere existence of the group, with its intense focus, has energized us. For me, I had been strangled in the grip of writers’ block so long and tight that I often contemplated giving up.
Not any more. My story for the Valentine’s Day boxed set is coming along well, which is a very good thing since, again, we’re working with a very short timeline.
Lesson learned. Next year will be easier, and there will, I think, be more boxed sets from the Naughty Literati for years to come.
At this point we’re planning about five anthologies annually, each corresponding to a season plus, of course, Valentine’s Day.
It’s hard to pinpoint what’s been best about this experience. Falling in love again with writing has been a big deal for me.
But surpassing everything has been the joy of working with a group of such fantastic colleagues. “Heart-warming” is a word that’s overused, but the caring and commitment I see from the Naughty Literati truly does warm my heart.
The best Christmas gift EVER. Thanks, guys. Love ya!
hugs,
suz
BIO:
Best-selling, award-winning author Suz deMello, a.k.a Sue Swift, has written seventeen romance novels in several subgenres, including erotica, comedy, historical, paranormal, mystery and suspense, plus a number of short stories and non-fiction articles on writing. A freelance editor, she’s held the positions of managing editor and senior editor, working for such firms as Totally Bound and Ai Press. She also takes private clients.
Her books have been favorably reviewed in Publishers Weekly, Kirkus and Booklist, won a contest or two, attained the finals of the RITA and hit several bestseller lists.
A former trial attorney, her passion is world travel. She’s left the US over a dozen times, including lengthy stints working overseas. She’s now writing a vampire tale and planning her next trip.
Find her books at http://www.suzdemello.com/
For editing services, email her at suzdemello@gmail.com
Befriend her on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/sueswift
She tweets @Suzdemello
Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/suzdemello/
Goodreads: http://bit.ly/SuzATGoodreads
Her current blog is http://www.thevelvetlair.com/
BLURB: Naughty List Anthology
Are you on the Naughty List?
Thirteen Naughty Holiday stories to warm up your winter
Suz deMello's story: Viking in Tartan
Medieval romance from the Highland Vampires series. A Viking raider brings change to little Clan Kilbirnie, especially to the chieftain’s daughter Rhona.
BUY LINKS: Visit http://naughtyliterati.com for all buy links.
At the end of the commercial, here’s how the company, EDS, promotes itself:
In a sense, it’s what we do. We bring together information, ideas and technologies and make them go where you want. EDS—managing the complexities of the digital economy.
A few months ago, my primary publisher underwent a corporate contraction which, unfortunately, garnered an outsize amount of adverse publicity. Authors were concerned about a variety of events which might take place. On the yahoogroup I set up so we could privately exchange information, I read fear, worry, anger...but candidly, little action.
I don’t consider myself a leader. In fact, more than one group I’ve been in has lost steam and foundered, so often I wondered if I was some sort of Jonah, a bad-luck jinx. But I do prefer action, so after a while I proposed that we take the energy we’d been expending on negative speculation and focus it on something positive.
I proposed creating a holiday boxed set. Thus was born the Naughty Literati, a group of thirteen authors who have, as our website says, “come together to show off their epic talents in short stories filled with powerful eroticism and satisfying romance.”
Why short stories? The timeline was short, so I suggested short stories. That may change. And because some were leery of too much structure, I kept it loose. Although the conventional wisdom is that readers don’t like subgenre mixing—M/M mixed in with F/M, for example—I didn’t care. I’m not interested in telling anyone how to do her art. If someone wanted to write M/M, cool. If someone wanted to contribute a ménage story, equally cool. Although the Naughty Literati all came from a publisher of erotic romance, I pushed for no set heat level. I felt sure that there would be plenty of hot sex, but I wasn’t going to decree XXX or BDSM.
Because every writer in the NL is a professional, I felt comfortable with few rules and I think others are also.
It’s been sort of a “seat of the pants” undertaking—the organizational equivalent of being a pantser as opposed to a plotter. But because I have a legal background, and used to run a law practice, I tend to be highly organized. I tried to think ahead, to anticipate issues before they arose.
We benefited by being a group of highly motivated, talented, smart and responsible individuals. Each of us brings gifts others may lack. Nic Austin is a wizard with Photoshop and has created beautiful covers and logos, plus the blog and the website. Marianne Stephens is my right-hand gal, my co-organizer, my sounding board. I can’t begin to say how glad I am she’s there for me. Regina Kammer “concatenates” like nobody’s business. Everyone stepped up to edit, copyedit, promote...there’s a myriad of tasks to complete.
There were challenges, of course. Primary among them, for me, is my naturally strong personality. I’m dominating and have the paddle and floggers to prove it. I had to rein myself in, occasionally reminding the others, “Hey, I’m not the Queen. I don’t have a tiara or Corgis.” (Damn. I like Corgis.) And I had to keep people on task without, quite frankly, being an asshole about it.
Whenever there was a potential point of disagreement, I took the easy way out. I put issues up for a vote. I have to say that while many diss Yahoo, their polling feature has been invaluable, as well as files, photo storage and databases. Communication was relatively easy.
Initial challenges: creating a loose but meaningful contract. Getting everyone to sign it (thank you, Docusign) without being a jerk about it. I felt that the arithmetic associated with divvying up the royalties could lead to serious issues, so I persuaded everyone to hire an outside company for that very purpose. The same company has handled publishing and distribution as well, for a portion of the royalties.
What can I say right now, when we’re in the midst of promoting the first boxed set, except so far so good? And it is good. The boxed set is selling nicely. Even better, the mere existence of the group, with its intense focus, has energized us. For me, I had been strangled in the grip of writers’ block so long and tight that I often contemplated giving up.
Not any more. My story for the Valentine’s Day boxed set is coming along well, which is a very good thing since, again, we’re working with a very short timeline.
Lesson learned. Next year will be easier, and there will, I think, be more boxed sets from the Naughty Literati for years to come.
At this point we’re planning about five anthologies annually, each corresponding to a season plus, of course, Valentine’s Day.
It’s hard to pinpoint what’s been best about this experience. Falling in love again with writing has been a big deal for me.
But surpassing everything has been the joy of working with a group of such fantastic colleagues. “Heart-warming” is a word that’s overused, but the caring and commitment I see from the Naughty Literati truly does warm my heart.
The best Christmas gift EVER. Thanks, guys. Love ya!
hugs,
suz
BIO:
Best-selling, award-winning author Suz deMello, a.k.a Sue Swift, has written seventeen romance novels in several subgenres, including erotica, comedy, historical, paranormal, mystery and suspense, plus a number of short stories and non-fiction articles on writing. A freelance editor, she’s held the positions of managing editor and senior editor, working for such firms as Totally Bound and Ai Press. She also takes private clients.
Her books have been favorably reviewed in Publishers Weekly, Kirkus and Booklist, won a contest or two, attained the finals of the RITA and hit several bestseller lists.
A former trial attorney, her passion is world travel. She’s left the US over a dozen times, including lengthy stints working overseas. She’s now writing a vampire tale and planning her next trip.
Find her books at http://www.suzdemello.com/
For editing services, email her at suzdemello@gmail.com
Befriend her on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/sueswift
She tweets @Suzdemello
Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/suzdemello/
Goodreads: http://bit.ly/SuzATGoodreads
Her current blog is http://www.thevelvetlair.com/
BLURB: Naughty List Anthology
Are you on the Naughty List?
Thirteen Naughty Holiday stories to warm up your winter
Suz deMello's story: Viking in Tartan
Medieval romance from the Highland Vampires series. A Viking raider brings change to little Clan Kilbirnie, especially to the chieftain’s daughter Rhona.
BUY LINKS: Visit http://naughtyliterati.com for all buy links.
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Sunday, December 14, 2014
Romantic Seasonal Weddings
When my best friend got married on 21 December, I remember thinking how festive everything was, especially with all the holiday colors, decorations, and flowers. As Maid of Honor, I held a special spot in the wedding party; what joy it added to that Christmas over 45 years ago.
When I got married two years later on 27 December, the same wonderful, seasonal feeling made our wedding festive. My best friend was my Matron on Honor; she, my bridesmaids, and I all held muffs with flowers attached. The church had lots of Christmas plants to brighten the altar area. It snowed, and my husband and I walked through snowflakes to get to the car after our church service (see photo - those spots are snowflakes). The hall was decorated with holiday decorations.
Were we crazy to get married in December? No. We loved the season and our wedding just made us enjoy time spent with family and friends more joyous. Yes, it was cold. But that time of year can be so beautiful!
June weddings are fine; I originally had thought about getting married in June. When plans changed since my then fiance had a military move to make...and I would go with him...we moved up our wedding plans. We settled on December, and never regretted that change.
Every wedding is filled with romantic thoughts; our December wedding will always hold images of holiday scenes, fun, celebration, family, friends, and love.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to YOU!
http://www.mariannestephens.net
http://www.romancebooks4us.com
NAUGHTY LIST now available;
Warm those chilly winter nights with 13 romance short stories!
Information at:
http://naughtyliterati.com
When I got married two years later on 27 December, the same wonderful, seasonal feeling made our wedding festive. My best friend was my Matron on Honor; she, my bridesmaids, and I all held muffs with flowers attached. The church had lots of Christmas plants to brighten the altar area. It snowed, and my husband and I walked through snowflakes to get to the car after our church service (see photo - those spots are snowflakes). The hall was decorated with holiday decorations.
Were we crazy to get married in December? No. We loved the season and our wedding just made us enjoy time spent with family and friends more joyous. Yes, it was cold. But that time of year can be so beautiful!
June weddings are fine; I originally had thought about getting married in June. When plans changed since my then fiance had a military move to make...and I would go with him...we moved up our wedding plans. We settled on December, and never regretted that change.
Every wedding is filled with romantic thoughts; our December wedding will always hold images of holiday scenes, fun, celebration, family, friends, and love.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to YOU!
http://www.mariannestephens.net
http://www.romancebooks4us.com
NAUGHTY LIST now available;
Warm those chilly winter nights with 13 romance short stories!
Information at:
http://naughtyliterati.com
Friday, November 14, 2014
Why I'm Writing in Anthologies/Boxed Sets
Way back when...years ago...I'd occasionally buy romance books that had two stories in one book (Love and Laughter line).
I haven't been writing romance stories for a few years; took off time to write two nonfiction books. When I was ready to write romance books again, my muse disappeared. I had no motivation to write. Getting to 40,000 words or more no longer seemed an option.
When a group of authors decided to write a short story winter anthology, Naughty List, I joined. I had a short story that just needed some revisions. This I could do...and in a short time. Since we wanted this anthology to release 1 December...and we only formed the group in October...everyone had to work quickly.
I welcomed this challenge as a way to revitalize my romance writing career.
Our group, The Naughty Literati, plans of 4 or 5 anthologies a year...Naughty List will be our first! I can do this. I can write short stories, without wondering if I can create longer novels.
Longer novels are what some can only write, and I applaud their efforts. I've done this.
But my career is taking a different path. I'm busy with the Romance Books '4' Us website, this blog, and the Romance Books '4' Us Yahoo group. I enjoy all three ventures. So, writing short stories will give me time to write AND continue to be active in all three RB4U sites.
I plan to be in another anthology group that will start organizing soon for a Spring release...with a slightly longer novellas of 15,000 words. I can do this. I can see my way clear to create a romance story with this word count.
I'm thinking that writing anywhere from 5,000 to 15,000 words, for any anthology/boxed set, will now be my goal.
Picking a good group to do an anthology/boxed set with is important. Everyone helps, in some way. The Naughty Literati group has 14 members, and we all pitch in. That's what is vital; no one just writes and let's the others do all the work to get the book out/do promo. Not everyone will be in each anthology...it's up to each author. 13 of us are in Naughty List.
BLURB: Naughty List
The Naughty Literati are a group of authors who’ve come together to show off their epic talents in short stories filled with powerful eroticism and satisfying romance. Our tales range from heartwarming and sweet to scorching hot erotic, medieval to futuristic, humans to aliens and shape-shifters, vanilla committed couples to kinky menage fun. Our first boxed set anthology will be available for your reading pleasure on December 1st.
My story: Dear Santa...I Want a MAN for Christmas
Frustrated with untrustworthy men, Melissa orders a man doll. When delivery guy, Nick, shows up, she has second thoughts about how to satisfy her needs.
Pre-order information coming soon. Visit our sites for more information. Website has blurbs and excerpts for all 13 stories.
http://naughtyliterati.com/
http://naughtyliterati.blogspot.com/
http://naughtyliterati.blogspot.com/
https://twitter.com/NaughtyLiterati
What do you think? Readers, do you like anthologies/boxed sets? Authors, do you like being in an anthology/boxed set?
Marianne
I haven't been writing romance stories for a few years; took off time to write two nonfiction books. When I was ready to write romance books again, my muse disappeared. I had no motivation to write. Getting to 40,000 words or more no longer seemed an option.
When a group of authors decided to write a short story winter anthology, Naughty List, I joined. I had a short story that just needed some revisions. This I could do...and in a short time. Since we wanted this anthology to release 1 December...and we only formed the group in October...everyone had to work quickly.
I welcomed this challenge as a way to revitalize my romance writing career.
Our group, The Naughty Literati, plans of 4 or 5 anthologies a year...Naughty List will be our first! I can do this. I can write short stories, without wondering if I can create longer novels.
Longer novels are what some can only write, and I applaud their efforts. I've done this.
But my career is taking a different path. I'm busy with the Romance Books '4' Us website, this blog, and the Romance Books '4' Us Yahoo group. I enjoy all three ventures. So, writing short stories will give me time to write AND continue to be active in all three RB4U sites.
I plan to be in another anthology group that will start organizing soon for a Spring release...with a slightly longer novellas of 15,000 words. I can do this. I can see my way clear to create a romance story with this word count.
I'm thinking that writing anywhere from 5,000 to 15,000 words, for any anthology/boxed set, will now be my goal.
Picking a good group to do an anthology/boxed set with is important. Everyone helps, in some way. The Naughty Literati group has 14 members, and we all pitch in. That's what is vital; no one just writes and let's the others do all the work to get the book out/do promo. Not everyone will be in each anthology...it's up to each author. 13 of us are in Naughty List.
BLURB: Naughty List
The Naughty Literati are a group of authors who’ve come together to show off their epic talents in short stories filled with powerful eroticism and satisfying romance. Our tales range from heartwarming and sweet to scorching hot erotic, medieval to futuristic, humans to aliens and shape-shifters, vanilla committed couples to kinky menage fun. Our first boxed set anthology will be available for your reading pleasure on December 1st.
My story: Dear Santa...I Want a MAN for Christmas
Frustrated with untrustworthy men, Melissa orders a man doll. When delivery guy, Nick, shows up, she has second thoughts about how to satisfy her needs.
Pre-order information coming soon. Visit our sites for more information. Website has blurbs and excerpts for all 13 stories.
http://naughtyliterati.com/
http://naughtyliterati.blogspot.com/
http://naughtyliterati.blogspot.com/
https://twitter.com/NaughtyLiterati
What do you think? Readers, do you like anthologies/boxed sets? Authors, do you like being in an anthology/boxed set?
Marianne
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