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Wednesday, September 14, 2016

When Grandparents Raise Grandchildren by Marianne Stephens

I now find myself in a position of being on Medicare and raising a 6-year-old child. My grandson now lives with hubby and me, and life has made a definite turn from the direction I thought we were heading.

Of course, no grandparent wants a grandchild to feel stressed with the insecurity of not understanding why life has changed. All we want to do is make him feel secure, happy, and loved.

I'm back to a school schedule, doing homework, and making his life enjoyable. It gives me a second view of how life is seen by such a young child on a daily basis. His needs come first. He's our priority.

As I walked beside him while he rode his bike (with training wheels) and he kept telling me not to let go, I realized just how much stamina I need to keep up with him! I carry a 5 hour energy drink with me. And, I make sure I get my sleep.

Our way of life has changed. He'll keep us moving! And we truly love him as we love all our grandkids.

Any grandparents raising grandkids have advice for me?

Writing isn't my priority. I'm just content right now to be there for my grandson and work on the RB4U website. Maybe I'll find a way back to writing when our lives are more settled.

Family first. Now and always.



jbiggar said...

Grandchildren are a blessing, but you're right, it takes a lot of stamina to keep up with them! The one good thing I've noticed is that I have a lot more patience now than when my daughter was young. Back then, I was always on her case for something: clean your room, wash your hands and brush your teeth. Is your homework done? Eat your broccoli!
Now, I'm more relaxed. I don't sweat the little stuff and make sure I count the blessing of being there when our grandson needs me.
It's enough.

Tina Donahue said...

When I read the part about him not wanting you to let go while he rode his bike with training wheels, the picture that created really tugged at my heart. Poor little guy to have such upheaval in his life (not being with mom & dad). Same goes for you and your hubby (raising your grandchild). I hope all goes well for you guys, Marianne.

Melissa Keir said...

I agree with both Jacquie and Tina. You need more energy but you probably don't sweat the small stuff as much. I find myself doing that with my students. I'm so happy that you are able to provide him with the love and guidance he needs and who knows? It will certainly provide you with some amazing benefits you never thought of!

I wish you all the best and know we (your friends) are always here! Should you need us!

Janice Seagraves said...

My daughter, her husband and son live with us. I get impromptu babysitting. "Here have a grandson," my daughter says and drops grandson in my lap so she can get dressed or go to the bathroom. I love the little guy. As a one year old, he can be a handful. I understand about the energy drinks, but be careful with them they can damage your stomach. Take care of yourself. You are needed now more than ever.

Gemma Juliana said...

What you are doing for your little man is a wonderful thing, Marianne. Yes, family comes first and you are his Rock of Gibraltar. You are building a strong bond, and he will never forget you were there for him. I've got one grandchild, and I'm more laid back when I'm with him than I was while raising my sons. Your grandson is more like a son now that he's living with you. I had my second son at 40, so in a way I could be his grandmother. It was a physical challenge, but the more I had to keep up the better it got. Your love and support are what he needs most. Maybe you can link up with other kids his age at a park or playground to run some of his little boy energy out while you watch and chat with the other "moms"... big hugs to you.

Cara Marsi said...

Bless you and your husband, Marianne. As hard at it may be at times to deal with a young child, you and your husband will be rewarded tenfold. Your grandson is so lucky to have such loving, caring grandparents.

R. Ann Siracusa said...

Marianne, Good article. You're doing a wonderful thing. I hope he understands that when he is older. Ann

jean hart stewart said...

My admiration and much power to you...We'll all keep the blog going....Jean

Paris said...

I don't think I can add much to the wonderful advice I've seen so far but please take care of yourself. What you and your husband are doing is a wonderful thing and your story about your grandson's learning to ride his bicycle brings tears to my eyes. He sounds like he needs you and I know you guys will be there for him. My best to you and your family.

Marianne Stephens said...

Thanks, everyone. It's such an uncomfortable situation with my daughter. I know she loves her son, but meeting his needs is our job as she's not doing this. He's our priority, and should be hers...just not happening. So sad.

Judy Baker said...

My heart goes out to you Marianne. May God bless you for all you're doing for your grandchild.

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