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Sunday, February 19, 2012

Sex, Sex, And More Sex!

Have I got your attention now? Or totally turned you off?

"Oh God....not another essay on sex, please..."

"Sex? (Heavy panting) Bring it on, baby!"

"Kenzie...what are you up to now...?"

Face it people; sex is all around us, even if when TV debuted, married couples had to be shown in separate beds. So how did Lucy end up 'in the family way'?? And did you know that Fred and Wilma Flintstone were the first married couple to share a bed on TV? Trust cartoons to shatter the tabboo...

In older romance novels and movies, what happens in the bedroom is behind closed doors. The music swells, the camera fades to black or pans upward toward the stars...and the next day the couple is shown with blissful, sappy smiles and holding hands. In books, the act is described in pretty vague terms, and certainly not until 'I love you' or even 'I do' has been uttered.

The first romance book I ever read was The Flame and the Flower, and the first sex scene is pretty much a rape, because the hero has mistaken his virginal visitor for a prostitute. And when she escaped the next day, he looked all over for her, finding her about the same time her family realized she was pregnant. Eventually they learned to love each other, but the sex scenes were more sensual; no mention of certain slang terms.

First Love by Judy Blume came along, and while body parts and the eventual act itself was described, it was all very loving and girls my age couldn't wait until we fell in love enough to give ourselves to our one true love.

Valley of the Horses by Jean M Aul really opened the bedroom door for me. This is what I wanted; several pages of what went on between two consenting adults in the bedroom, er, cave.

And so I started writing.

The first book my alter ego submitted to an agent, he admitted he blushed several times, and labelled it Erotic Romance. I was surprised; I hadn't been introduced to the erotic romance genre yet, and thought erotic meant it belonged in Men's Magazines! Two years later, I learned about the online publisher Ellora's Cave and read some of their excerpts. I blushed; I wasn't raised with some of the language used, but kept returning to the site. And finally, bought my first two books.

I was instantly hooked.

As I said in earlier posts, my first attempt was written in longhand, while locked in my bedroom. I didn't want the kids, or even my husband to know what I was writing. But in 2007, I'd read enough books to become slightly more comfortable with the terminology, and now have no problem writing it on the computer, at my desk, where anyone can view it. (Although, if the kids are near, I'll use discretion if I'm writing the sex scenes. S snuck up on me once and yelled, 'Oh my gawd...Mom's writing porn!')

Speaking it, I have more issues. I was on a friend's blogtalk radio show in April, and when I chose the excerpt to read, I'd forgotten it contained both 'pussy' and 'cock'. I sort of exhaled when I said those words, and rushed through that paragraph, but thankfully they were only mentioned once; I was alone in my house and was recovering from laryngitis. Later, T told me he heard his producer, rather startled, in his ear, 'Pussy and Cock at almost 3 in the afternoon...Okay!' And in later shows, featured guests whose frequent use of the word 'Fuck' jolted me out of the top 'shocker' spot and I'm actually one of his tamer shows! I've since told him that if he ever has me on again, to put me in a 10pm slot, lol:)

But the point I'm trying to make is this: Whether you like your written sex sweet and fifties' style, sensual and mainstreamy-like, or in-your-face-bedroom-wide-open-use-oven-mitts-while-reading-or-at-least-have-the-air-conditioning-on, it's out there.

And I'm on the tamer side of the burning-up-the-pages-scenes. Yes, I've written six books which my mother will NEVER read (or if she does, she'll blush profusely, call me up and yell at me for the language, and then smile when I tell her about reviews or sales), and I AM capable of keeping the heat level up. But I've noticed this comes in cycles. Sometimes I don't want to read about every time my hero and heroine copulate; the first two times are fine, unless they decide to go at it in a differnt location, or play around with sex toys.

But other times, yeah...bring it on!

And now for my steamy Valentine's day scene:

Kevin trailed his fingers across Tammy’s skin and down to the hollow of her soft breasts pressed against his side. He lifted the closest one and rolled the nipple between his fingers. In response, she reached down and ran her fingers over his limp dick, enjoying the texture of his penis in her own palm. She caressed his balls, and it wasn’t long before he was rising to the occasion again. His manipulations on her breast grew rough. Kevin’s breath was soon labored, and a slight bead of moisture trickled from the tip of his penis. He rolled her to her back, and she guided him into her once more, welcoming his weight. Her legs shook when she spread them wide. Kevin repositioned them over his shoulder and stroked.

Deeper he went, his balls slapping her ass. Tammy winced with pain, and Kevin stopped and lowered her legs. He rubbed her inner thighs and suggested turning over. She complied and lifted her ass in the air, her head on her arms, waiting for his invasion. Soon, his tongue lapped at her.

“Ohhh.” She giggled when he hit a sensitive spot. “Oh, Kevin…”

“Lie on your side.” He presented her with his drooping penis. “Stroke me.”

She grasped him with both hands and rubbed, played with his balls, and sucked him into her throat, feeling him harden with each swipe of the tongue and lips.

“Let go,” he rasped. “I want to come in your pussy, not in your mouth.” He reversed positions again and slammed himself inside her. Three hard thrusts, and he was finished.

“Happy Valentine’s Day. Damn, girl…your body’s going to kill me one day, but oh, what a way to go.”

Teacher's Pet available now at Freya's Bower, Amazon, and ARE:)


Amber Skyze said...

Great post, Kenzie. I've been talking a lot about the subject lately too.

R. Ann Siracusa said...

Kenzie, loved your post and the sex scene. My husband says I write porno, but my books are rated sensuous mid-range heat level. He only read the first one (fortunately) and came roaring into my office demanding where I'd learned "this." Well, gee. Short memory.

Tina Donahue said...

One of the first erotic romances I read was Wicked Loving Lies...really made my eyes bug out. Then I discovered Kathleen Woodiwiss and Shanna. OMG, I just loved that story.

Great post, Kenzie

Anthology Authors said...

It fascinates me how we cringe at sex, but people have no problem sending their kids off to see a horror movie. O.o Because violence is okay. (g) Give me sex any day. (g)


Katalina Leon said...

Clan of the Cave Bear was an eye opener for me. I loved it too.

Kenzie Michaels said...

@Amber: I know; I'm in a (surprisingly enough) don't-wanna-read-the-sex-scenes cycle at the moment, and am editing TWO books, one with lots of sex and the other where it's on the back burner...until I get to the last chapter! What is WRONG with me? LOL:)

@Ann: ROFL! My daughter told me she'd 'read worse at school', so there you go...

@Tina: I also love Shanna! But she falls asleep too fast for me in some scenes. That's my only complaint about that book.

@Marci: I remember when Bugs Bunny was the most violent TV show. Have you watched Spartacus? I've become addicted to that show...guess I've been 'corrupted' by my chosen career path, lol!

@Kat: I read COTCB as a HS senior. I took it to class one day and a sub teacher (who knew my mother) asked me if my mom knew what I was reading. I calmly replied, "Yes; she's the one who gave it to me."

That shut her up, lol!

Liz said...

omg, let's form a support group for "the pleasures!" yes, I still firmly believe in Auel's concept: the older women "teach" the young men what to do (win-win) then they in turn "educate" the younger women in said fun (More winning). LOVE it still.
great post...My stuff is pretty "pot-holder" steamy but I do have a book coming out as a prequel to a series set in Istanbul in the 1960s with my "first" virgin. It was fun to write.

Cara Marsi said...

Wow, that excerpt is hot. The first book I read with explicit was "Sweet, Savage Love" by Rosemary Rogers. I loved that book. Still have it on my shelf. Prior to that I'd read books by Frank Yerby that got somewhat sensual but never really showed anything. And I read a lot of Gothic romances and YA romances, but they only hinted at sex.

I enjoy reading and writing all types of romance, with the sex in your face or behind closed doors. Sometimes I get tired of writing love scenes, which is why I wrote "Loving Or Nothing" as a relatively sweet story. Most of the lovemaking fades to black.

Molly, you have a knack for writing hot scenes that flow. Whenever I've tried to write something that was "erotic" as opposed to "hot," my critique group shakes its collective head and tells me to give it up. I don't have the knack for writing a truly erotic scene. I'll stick to hot and sensual for myself, but I certainly enjoy reading the erotic romances.

Love your covers too.

Harlie Reader said...

Great post and I can take it or leave it when it comes to sex in a book. I know, I know, bad Marika.

The scene you shared is hot and believe me peeps, Teacher's Pet is hot and they are like bunnies. That said, there is a great story there and even if the sex wasn't there in Teacher's Pet, the story stands by itself.


***Liz...I need a hose when I read your stuff*** Good stuff, too.

Harlie Reader said...

Also, I read First Love but my first true sex book was Lucky by Sandra Brown and my mother gave it to me read after she did. It was part of her Doubleday book club selection. :)


Kenzie Michaels said...

@Liz: Hear hear! And I hope when our tax $$ gets here I can make a serious dent in my TBB list...and that includes at least one of yours:)

@Cara: Thank you! Teacher's Pet was the first book I ever wrote with the intention of keeping the heat level up, and though I eventually toned some of the scenes down, I was happy with the experiment:)

@Marika: You are an awesome cheerleader! And I love the Texas series by Sandra Brown:)

Paris said...

I think I've read most of the books mentioned here and I have to say that they run the gamut in terms of heat, the love scenes were all appropriate for the books. They were all wonderful.

I'm with Marci when it comes to the issue of why sex is such a no no but kids can go see violent movies and video games. Makes no sense.

Great post, Molly:)

Liz Flaherty said...

Great post, Kenzie!

Kenzie Michaels said...

@Paris: I'm with you on that. I can't stand to watch slasher movies, and while I'm a devoted Spartacus fan, the bloody parts are still too much for me. But I know several kids who play video games with violence depicted, and sometimes they have trouble grasping the reality of some of the depicted actions.

@Liz: Thanks for stopping by!

Terri Talley Venters said...

I enjoyed your Valentine's scene. Wow=) I have a book coming soon from Freya's Bower. But I let my mom read it. She told me I has a comma splice. Lol.

Great point Marci. My parents let me see movies with nudity, but not horror and I turned out ok. =)

Congrats on your new release of Teacher's Pet. I can't wait to read it!

Molly Daniels said...

@Terri: Thank you:) I hope you enjoy it! I saw Excaliber when I was 15 (1st R rated movie and my dad took me), and kept wishing Sir Lancelot would turn around; I liked his butt, but wanted to see the other side of him!

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