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Sunday, January 29, 2012

In Search of the Perfect Heroine

Good Morning,

This is tough, I have no idea what men look for in a heroine, but they don't read romances so who cares.  Well, we must care because she has to be attractive to our hero.  We need to know what men look for in their ladies.

I told a lie in my very first paragraph.  Can you guess what it is?  Men don't read a romance is a lie.  On one of my loops, several readers said they and their husbands often read a romantic adventure together.  I bet you are just dying to know why.  Well, guess what, they are learning new techniques for making love.  They want the sex between them and their spouses to be more satisfying, more interesting to their respective partners.

Okay, I've digressed a bit.  My personal opinion of the ideal protagonist is that she may be us.  Of course, I'm not saying I'm perfect (just close to it--grin), but neither is our character.  We can make her the way we would like to look or act, but she still has to have ordinary flaws like all women have.

There are physical attributes that most guys look for in a woman when they are on the prowl.  Almost all males pant over boobs, the ass and legs, but in the end those features won't hold their interest forever.  No, your heroine better have a personality, be intelligent and strong.  No man wants a stick character, a dummy or someone who can't take care of themselves when he's not there.

A man wants to take care of his woman, (yeah, the caveman) but not to the extent she is reliant on him all the time.  Gentlemen, you wish for a partner that you can lean on when the need arises.  This means the perfect heroine needs to know when to be strong and when not to be. 

Appearance is only important as far as description of the female protagonist is necessary in my story, and also, because everyone wants to read about a hot looking female.  The old saying that beauty is in the eye of the beholder is true between a man and a woman.  What one man or woman finds lovely or handsome may not be another person's idea of either. 

A heroine may be made up of a composite of many people or maybe just someone you might like to meet in your dreams.  Take the best from all women and make her your idol.  Just remember no one is perfect so give her a flaw. 

Have a wonderful week.

Sandra K. Marshall
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Tina Donahue said...

Great post. I think men want in a lover what women want - a friend - someone they feel comfortable with, can laugh with, someone they can be themselves with.

Sandy said...

I agree Tina. It makes the lovemaking all that much more fun.

Adele Dubois said...

You're right that some couples use erotic romance novels to spice up their sex lives. I've heard that said many times by Ellora's Cave readers.

It's great that there's a personality type for almost every taste. That keeps life, and fiction, interesting.


Sandy said...

Adele, I think our love scenes help spice up some marriages. Smile.

Paris said...

Great post, Sandy. And I believe more men read romances than admit to it:)

jean hart stewart said...

Interesting post. Certainly makes one think, which has gotta be good. Sex without somekind of other tie to the person is just mechanical and really turns me off. I like romance with my sex, and think most readers do too.

Sandy said...

Thanks, Paris. You're right men read romances especially if it has other elements in the story. Espionage and mystery will attract them first. lol

Jean, there are women who don't care about the romance just the sex. lol It's not you or me though.

Marianne Stephens said...

Beauty is an initial attractive element, but a heroine's strength, character, and intelligence capture the hero's heart. A whining, simpering, helpless heroine is a turn-off.

Sandy said...

Thank you, Marianne. I agree.

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