This year is my first Mother's Day as a grandmother, and that's a special milestone. Unfortunately, I haven't seen my granddaughter in a while, and I did miss her. With my mother gone for several years now, and my m-i-l living across the country, we no longer have to bounce from one house to another. That's bittersweet, and I spend more of the day reflecting now than I did as a younger mom.Watching Facebook during my day of leisure, I watched friends grieve the loss of their mothers, grandmothers, or even a child--a devastating holiday in that case. Some folks whose mothers were dysfunctional find the idea of celebrating awkward or worse. Other women felt slighted, as aunts, stepmoms, foster parents, teachers, counselors, and other people who go out of their way to care for children who aren't even theirs by birth. As on commenter said, "Being a mother is genetic. Being a MOM is entirely by choice." I was forcibly reminded that for all my flip, princess-like behavior, a lot of people had a tough time yesterday. To them, I want to send hugs, and these belated greetings:
- If you've ever taught someone to read or ride a bike, or any other skill, Happy Mother's Day
- If you've ever held a crying child, your own or otherwise, Happy Mother's Day.
- If you've ever given a teenager advice that kept them from doing something stupid, Happy Mother's Day.
- If you're grieving a loss or never had a mother's love, Happy Mother's Day
- If you've ever held someone's hand while they waited for news, Happy Mother's Day.
- If you've ever sat up all night with someone sick or in tears, Happy Mother's Day.If you've ever given up your portion of a meal, dessert or snack so someone else could have it, Happy Mother's Day.
- If you've ever skipped buying something for yourself so you could buy one for someone else, Happy Mother's Day.
- If you've ever scolded while choking back tears, Happy Mother's Day.
- If you've ever loved so fiercely that you would do anything for someone, Happy Mother's Day.
While I was lucky enough to be born into a mostly-functional family (come on, no one's family is perfectly functional!), I'm also well aware of the concept of family by choice. (In fact the theme crops up in my books--a LOT) A lot of women were mentors to me along my life's journey, and I'm grateful for every one. That's the best thing about love--it doesn't worry about genetics, and there's always room for more.