This month's blog is from an older post that I ran across the other day. I was trying to think of an appropriate post to celebrate freedom. After I finished reading the last paragraph, I realized what it had taken for women to reach a point where a discussion about erotic romance could take place in a public forum. I truly am grateful for all of the efforts of those who fought the good fight.
Most erotic romance authors at some point in their career are asked by a well-meaning (or not so well-meaning) friend or relative why they write “those kinds of books”.
These days, if anyone asks why I write Erotica and Erotic Romance, I tell them it’s because I enjoy the freedom of exploring what makes people tick and in my opinion separating sex from the equation means leaving out a really huge chunk of the life experience. If the current trend in books is any indication, apparently I’m not the only one.
As a reader and an author I know that I enjoy a good story with a strong female protagonist, a woman who knows what she wants whether that may be honestly exploring her sexual nature by having a fling or a more serious romance with someone who sparks a palatable need that will ultimately lead to an emotional connection.
There isn’t any time during sex when characters are not emotionally vulnerable and as a reader I am fascinated by that vulnerability. As an author, I realize that sex is a veritable gold-mine when it comes to revealing a character’s hidden depths that hopefully, a reader might connect to on an emotional level.
Sustaining an emotional connection using the journey of the sexual experience to advance the plot is not a task I would assign to the faint of heart. It is, dear reader much more complicated than those who disparage erotica and erotic romance would have you think. It is not simply, insert tab A into slot B.
Whether it’s a story focused only on a woman’s sexual journey to discover her own hidden depths or a romance that is revealed along the sexual journey, I believe Erotica and Erotic Romance to be positive forces in our culture. They reinforce the belief that women have a right to their sexual identity and that they won’t accept anyone telling them otherwise.
If you study history, there have been times during each century in this country when women have taken a stand and demanded their rights. It wasn’t that long ago women were denied the right to vote, birth control and protection against an abusive spouse. They were also culturally persuaded to believe that they didn’t have a right to a sexual identity. I sincerely hope that those days are over and I thank all of those who came before and spoke out, marched and were sometimes jailed so that future generations would be able to express themselves freely.
Until next month,