tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post5553234752842296640..comments2024-03-24T13:49:53.099-04:00Comments on Romance Books '4' Us: A Mom's GuiltUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger29125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-70310781701079687532014-05-09T18:17:09.660-04:002014-05-09T18:17:09.660-04:00Diane,
Thank you for visiting. It does feel good w...Diane,<br />Thank you for visiting. It does feel good when you look back and know you did something good! Happy Mother's Day!<br /><br />Daryl, Thanks for stopping by. Would you believe I worry about as much about my fur-babies too?? Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-22908233167933329742014-05-09T18:15:50.100-04:002014-05-09T18:15:50.100-04:00Jill- I'm glad your son is enjoying his school...Jill- I'm glad your son is enjoying his school years. I was in a hurry to leave and get away. Sure miss those years now. And no matter what age, it's hard to not be in one of your siblings' shadows (I'm the oldest of 5). Happy Mother's Day!<br /><br />Rohn,<br />Thank you for posting. I wonder if other choices I make each day will continue to impact my children, even though they are adults. I'm glad you have some wonderful children.Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-80814760493550340562014-05-09T18:13:27.365-04:002014-05-09T18:13:27.365-04:00Jean- You are so blessed. I'm glad your son ma...Jean- You are so blessed. I'm glad your son makes it a priority to spend time with you!<br /><br />Molly- I'm sure it's hard. My step-sons have their own issues and we've had a hard time raising them. I never know when to rush in to help or to step back. I'm sure you doing a wonderful job with your granddaughter. I love hearing about her in your life.Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-67007598337759598192014-05-09T18:11:48.933-04:002014-05-09T18:11:48.933-04:00Sandy,
I don't have the grandchildren yet, but...Sandy,<br />I don't have the grandchildren yet, but I can only imagine the guilt I will feel if I don't live closeby. I was so fortunate to have my grandparents close and it was the best part of childhood.<br /><br />Thank you Vicki. I'm glad you enjoyed the post. It would have been so much more helpful to have that toolkit!Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-21725867520959687672014-05-09T18:10:16.104-04:002014-05-09T18:10:16.104-04:00D'Ann- Isn't it wonderful to know now that...D'Ann- Isn't it wonderful to know now that we did something right? I wish I could have known some of that when they were little!<br /><br />Maris- Thank you! I know that I do appreciate how well my children are doing. I feel so very fortunate.<br /><br />Jennifer- Thank you! I do think you are a pretty awesome person so I'm sure your children do as well! <br /><br />Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-2192631039218109972014-05-09T16:35:26.961-04:002014-05-09T16:35:26.961-04:00I'm glad you reposted this. I can say "di...I'm glad you reposted this. I can say "ditto" on the guilt. Now that my kids are grown & on their own, I see the terrific adults they are. Hubs & I must have done something good. :)Diane Burtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03754105332297068271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-22874408909827588722014-05-09T16:24:59.272-04:002014-05-09T16:24:59.272-04:00Great post. Sons like a wonderful son. Happy Mothe...Great post. Sons like a wonderful son. Happy Mother's day on Sunday.Daryl Devoréhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00941826725131248565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-20650882575054307142014-05-09T16:18:24.000-04:002014-05-09T16:18:24.000-04:00My sons' father and I were divorced when they ...My sons' father and I were divorced when they were very small and I remarried enough to make their heads swim. But they turned out to be responsible adults with families of their own. I'm proud of both of them for ignoring most of what I taught them to live happy lives.<br /><br />Rohn Federbushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02016317876402074001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-70708001037933984242014-05-09T16:18:23.323-04:002014-05-09T16:18:23.323-04:00My sons' father and I were divorced when they ...My sons' father and I were divorced when they were very small and I remarried enough to make their heads swim. But they turned out to be responsible adults with families of their own. I'm proud of both of them for ignoring most of what I taught them to live happy lives.<br /><br />Rohn Federbushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02016317876402074001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-35148342206491248102014-05-09T16:18:23.156-04:002014-05-09T16:18:23.156-04:00My sons' father and I were divorced when they ...My sons' father and I were divorced when they were very small and I remarried enough to make their heads swim. But they turned out to be responsible adults with families of their own. I'm proud of both of them for ignoring most of what I taught them to live happy lives.<br /><br />Rohn Federbushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02016317876402074001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-32743126680171867642014-05-09T16:13:19.190-04:002014-05-09T16:13:19.190-04:00Nice thoughtful post, as always, Melissa. I, too, ...Nice thoughtful post, as always, Melissa. I, too, have a 17 year old son. He's getting tons of attention right now because he's a stand-out athlete in track and has prom this weekend, so most of my guilt revolves around our younger son becoming lost in the shadow of elder brother. Sigh. Hopefully the awareness of our potential failures as parents means we are paying enough attention to ultimately succeed!!Jill Hugheyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18186583842911114283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-87743743337245940392014-05-09T13:31:47.208-04:002014-05-09T13:31:47.208-04:00I often wonder if I've provided a bad model fo...I often wonder if I've provided a bad model for my kids by staying in a borderline abusive marriage, simply so they would have both parents in the home and I could stay home and write. And now I'm second-guessing myself about home schooling my youngest next year.<br /><br />You can't stop the guilt, but you can learn to let it go and trust in God that your decisions are wise ones. I now have a beautiful granddaughter and while I'm certainly not trying to make up for past mistakes, I AM working to provide her with a loving, stable, home until my daughter is able to provide for her. I hope to provide a solid foundation of loving discipline so when that time comes and I'm no longer the primary parent, my daughter can pick up where we left off. Does that make any sense?Molly Danielshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01488325587798390008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-42674103586703857922014-05-09T13:29:29.666-04:002014-05-09T13:29:29.666-04:00Great post....I have wonderful children and am so ...Great post....I have wonderful children and am so blessed. My son is visiting now. He makes it a point to spend every mother's day with me..jean hart stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12287808234288499369noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-33002434264790360502014-05-09T12:54:01.313-04:002014-05-09T12:54:01.313-04:00OHG, Melissa! I love this post.
We aren't gi...OHG, Melissa! I love this post. <br /><br />We aren't given the award-winning toolkit when we have kids. But it is our job to instill the values that will help them grow up to be contributing members of society. Ones who will laugh and love. Ones who will work and pray. Vicki Batman, sassy writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13846704675542248648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-56493855972201225962014-05-09T11:43:28.116-04:002014-05-09T11:43:28.116-04:00What a wonderful post. I don't feel a lot of ...What a wonderful post. I don't feel a lot of guilt for our children, but I do over our grandchildren. I feel like we haven't been there for them, and I really blame my writing for that. Oh sure, it's really my fault because I made the choice to write rather than go to games. Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01843816981385732033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-63123652036063846842014-05-09T11:08:19.007-04:002014-05-09T11:08:19.007-04:00Beautiful post, Melissa! Guilt is a mom's burd...Beautiful post, Melissa! Guilt is a mom's burden and we carry is so well, lol. I'm blessed with two wonderful kids, but I feel guilty everyday with the things I should have done different, done more, done less, etc. Then I look at my kids and wonder how they turned out so good. Certainly not because of me, lol. <br />Happy Mother's Day to all you mom's out there! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-20621228305313132952014-05-09T11:03:29.649-04:002014-05-09T11:03:29.649-04:00Love your post. Mom worry and Mom guilt never go a...Love your post. Mom worry and Mom guilt never go away, no matter what the age of your children. The pleasure is when you discover your children are doing just fine (perhaps inspite of you). Marishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14714052867941990380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-57315222653308533172014-05-09T10:36:49.187-04:002014-05-09T10:36:49.187-04:00Good post! I have an only child and have been bles...Good post! I have an only child and have been blessed by a good girl. She was a dream kid. Honest, responsible, caring. Athlete, good student. I don't know what we did right, but I'd have ten more if they were like my kid, now an adult.D'Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05333880627045486088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-69896715663495783692014-05-09T10:15:29.848-04:002014-05-09T10:15:29.848-04:00Rose- Thank you for commenting. :)
Lynda- What a ...Rose- Thank you for commenting. :)<br /><br />Lynda- What a great feeling when your child acts in a responsible manner and you've known you taught them to be the best they can be. :) Happy Mother's Day!Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-26937724218167244462014-05-09T10:14:33.355-04:002014-05-09T10:14:33.355-04:00Paris-Isn't it funny when our parents are comi...Paris-Isn't it funny when our parents are coming out of our mouths? We don't want to be our parents, yet we channel them! Happy Mother's Day!!<br /><br />Lucy-I do like the new relationship I have with my children now that they are adults. It's certainly different but I'm so proud to see the people they've become. Happy Mother's Day!Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-6870683293131155652014-05-09T10:11:33.450-04:002014-05-09T10:11:33.450-04:00Tina- I understand your pain. My parents used to s...Tina- I understand your pain. My parents used to say that they stayed together for us children. It was a hard situation to be in. I did take the divorce route but didn't do it until I was sure it was the best and only option. Now my children are better off and I'm sorry about your childhood. I'm glad to hear that sometimes divorce is worth it.Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-22862660368170450512014-05-09T10:10:05.693-04:002014-05-09T10:10:05.693-04:00Kristen- Happy Mother's Day! It sure is a toug...Kristen- Happy Mother's Day! It sure is a tough job. The hours are long but certainly worth the effort. I also did the stay at home when my kids were little. I cherished that time with them.<br /><br />Patricia- I think guilt goes with the territory. I agree about teaching our children independence. I see too many helicopter parents who rescue their children and the children don't know how to take ownership. Happy Mother's Day!<br />Melissa Keirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10247037321769755660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-37785016932343419052014-05-09T09:52:41.303-04:002014-05-09T09:52:41.303-04:00Awesome post, Melissa! Yes, "mommy guilt"...Awesome post, Melissa! Yes, "mommy guilt" gets to us all... sigh. Even as a stay-home mom with a hubby who provided a darn fine living, there is guilt. You can't escape it. But when you see your kiddo (or kiddos) take responsibility for themselves, all that guilt melts into pride. ;)<br />Happy Mother's Day!Lynda Baileyhttp://www.lyndabailey.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-4083278756053366742014-05-09T09:49:24.173-04:002014-05-09T09:49:24.173-04:00What a wonderful post for Mother's Day! Thanks...What a wonderful post for Mother's Day! Thanks for sharing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12937328419133796333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5742415355016995707.post-33731028762706335232014-05-09T09:49:14.659-04:002014-05-09T09:49:14.659-04:00Nice post, Melissa. I think we all suffer from gui...Nice post, Melissa. I think we all suffer from guilt when our kids are little and as they progress through the teen-age years, but I'm happy to say that once they become adults and responsible for their own lives, things do (at least they did for me) change. My daughter and son make me very proud of the people they have become, and we are now more best friends than parent/child. They've always been supportive of my writing, too.<br />Happy Mother's Day to you!Lucy Naylor Kubashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06595948650454049233noreply@blogger.com