I know...let the flogging begin... I'm a romance author who hates the holiday which is supposedly based on romance. It seems a dichotomy, but it makes perfect sense to me. Like the heroine in my soon to be released, Devil May Care, I dread the yearly pressure for gifts, cards and expectations that drive this former pagan feast day, which was recast as St. Valentine's Day around 496. Though the month of February has long been known as the month of romance, I just can't shake the feeling that the day has been taken over by retailers so they can sell more stuff. Add to this the man-shaming that occurs for guys who don't follow the prescribed path and the false assumption that ALL women want their men to jump through a specific set of hoops to prove their love and you can count me irritated by this "day of romance".
Maybe I'm weird because I don't buy into the whole Valentine's Day thing but I'm pretty sure I'm not alone. Sure, I'm a bit of a rebel, but I'm also a person who doesn't care much for fuss and fluff and I don't want my husband to buy me stuff because he feels obligated. I'd much rather he do things because he loves me. I'd rather he help me around the house, stand up for me when life gives me a right hook to the chin, and consider my feelings in everything he does. To me, those are the things that real romance is crafted from.
All this isn't to take away from the cards and candy and flowers that many of us will receive on February 14th. But, IMHO, for any of that to have real meaning, it needs to be backed up by the stuff I mentioned above. Otherwise, the romance will last no longer than those flowers wilting in a vase filled with cloudy water.
Happy Romance everybody!
USA Today Bestselling Author Sam Cheever writes romantic paranormal/fantasy and mystery/suspense, creating stories that celebrate the joy of love in all its forms. Known for writing great characters, snappy dialogue, and unique and exhilarating stories, Sam is the award-winning author of 50+ books and has been writing for over a decade under several noms de plume.
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