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Thursday, August 28, 2014

Guest Blog: Lynda Bailey: Writing Techno-colored Kink from a Vanilla Perspective

I want to extend a really big THANK YOU to the crew at Romancebooks4us for hosting me today. Leave a comment for the chance to win a $10 gift card.

Anyone who knows me knows I write contemporary romance for a reason. I loathe research. While some writers go ga-ga over research, for me it’s in the same category as a tax audit and dental visit. Me no like.

But as an erotic romance author, it seemed a natural segue for me to progress into writing BDSM romances – which meant coming face-to-face with my archenemy, my nemesis, my Waterloo…research. (And no, I’m not talking about the kind of research that had me tied up in a dungeon with whips and chains and floggers – oh my! Really, I’m not…

For Shattered Trust I wanted to do some honest-to-goodness research versus flying by the seat of my pants. Why? Because there are real people who live this lifestyle and I did not want to offend them. (Just ask any Regency author the penalty for getting historical details about clothing or transportation wrong. It can be worse than death.)

So, how does a vanilla (aka, someone not in the kink/leather lifestyle) author go about doing research involving BDSM without having to – ahem – do the research? The first thing I did was read BDSM romances by other authors – and NOT 50 Shades. A few of my personal favorites are Delilah Devlin, Lavender Day and Lily Rede. But, as with historical writers, taking what you read in someone else’s fictional book doesn’t make it so. But reading non-fiction BDSM books does. My ‘go-to’ non-fiction books are BDSM, The Naked Truth, by Dr. Charley Ferrer and The Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan Taormino.

Then there’s the research I did by Googling kink toys/equipment which gave me ideas of what various floggers, spanking benches and St. Andrews crosses actually look like. However, all the reading and Googling wasn’t helping me get into the emotion of what transpires during a scene. For that I needed a personal connection to the lifestyle.

Enter *Kim.*

Kim and I share a mutual friend who introduced us. Kim’s a “bottom” in the local leather community and was more than willing to help navigate me the uncharted kink waters. She answered my questions, showed me some of her Top’s favorite toys and agreed to be a beta reader for Shattered Trust. (She also turned out to be an amazing line editor!)

I took every scrap of her advice to heart. If Kim said something wasn’t right, I changed or at least modified it. One example was when Kate (heroine) scoffed at Liam’s (hero) compliment of her body. Originally, I had Liam “punish” Kate by spanking her. Kim pointed out a Top/Dominant wouldn’t set their bottom/submissive up to fail like that. She suggested turning the scene around so Kate got rewarded by being spanked. So instead of it being a punishment, it became a “fun”ishment.

Without question Kim helped to make Shattered Trust a deeper, richer, truer portrayal of a D/s relationship, and I’m extraordinarily grateful for her assistance. I’m also looking forward to working with Kim in the future, given that Shattered Trust is the first book in my Trustworthy Texas trilogy…

So what about you? If you’re a vanilla author like me, just how far would you go to get the kink right in your story? Inquiring minds want to know, don’tcha know… *wink* Remember to leave a comment for the chance to win a $10 gift card. Thanks again to Romancebooks4us for letting me hang out today!

BLURB:
Learning to love is the easy part...

As a young woman, Kate Landry trusted the wrong man, and she paid dearly for her naiveté. Alone, pregnant and destitute, she survived by the sheer force of her will. Now forty-two, Kate has made a good living for herself and her daughter as the owner of the Bluebird Saloon. But she’s forgotten how to live. That is until he comes into her bar…

Liam St. James loved a girl once. And only once. After an accident paralyzed her, she didn’t trust he would continue to love her. Brokenhearted, Liam left and soon discovered a world where women did trust him—to be their sexual Dominant. He plays out the scenes masterfully, but the unexpected request from the stoic bar owner will pose his greatest challenge yet…

Kate and Liam embark on a journey to uncover repressed urges and, in the process, they discover new desires. They also fall in love with one another. But when you’ve been shattered as badly as they have by mistrust, deceit and abuse, loving is easy. Trusting is harder, if not impossible, especially when the heart is involved…

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BIO:
Lynda grew up loving stories, especially romances. For her the only thing better than reading a romance is writing one. That and drinking red wine while eating dark chocolate.

Her romances are full of passion, with heat levels that range from hot to sizzling! She’s proud to have been a 2010 finalist in the prestigious Golden Heart®. Please join her for laughter and love, and where the good guys always win in the end.

Lynda lives in Reno with my husband of thirty+ years and two pampered pooches. You can visit her at http://www.lyndabailey.net/. Or drop an email at Lynda@lyndabailey.net

20 comments:

E. Ayers said...

Just had to read about your journey. I can't read it, won't read it, and definitely won't write it. Yet, I have a friend who lives it. I'll just stay on my vanilla side and wave hello.

Wishing you much success with your book.

Lynda Bailey said...

LOL, E! Thanks for your support! ;)

Rose Anderson said...

Interesting post, Lynda. Thanks for joining us today, and best luck!

Sue Stiff said...

Thanks for sharing.

Debby said...

Great post. Enjoyed reading incredible.

Sandy said...

Lynda, what a fascinating post. I spent 9 months doing research at a riverboat casino before writing three books set in the casino setting. You learn so much more when you're there.

It sounds like you did a great job with your book.

Cara Marsi said...

Lynda, very interesting. I don't read BDSM, but I admire that you can write it and that you've done such extensive research. I really enjoyed reading about your journey to learn all you could about the BDSM lifestyle. I love your excerpt.

jodi marinich said...

thanks for the chance

Judy Baker said...

Thanks for sharing with us today, Lynda. Wishing you much success.

Michele Drier said...

Thanks for the blog, Lynda. I've wondered if I could/should dip into the kink genre, but know little to nothing about it. You're brave... bravo!

Angel Rose said...

I enjoyed reading about your journey. Cannot wait to read the new book!

Gemma Juliana said...

Thanks for sharing your research journey, Lynda, it was a fun read. Wishing you success with your new venture into the world of writing kink.

jean hart stewart said...

I envy you your courage in learning something so new and different. Kudos, lady!!!

Polly McCrillis said...

Kudos to you, Lynda for navigating those unchartered waters of D/s! I would have done exactly what you did to get to the truth and realism of that lifestyle, the difference being, I love doing research. I hope your trilogy is a spankin' wild success!

kaisquared said...

Thank you for making yourself do that horrible R word.... many books, vanilla or other flavors, fall down badly for the lack of it. I would go about writing about power exchange just as you did, but I may have tried a little shibari myself. I shudder at the obvious lack of research involved in FSOG, but I look forward to reading your book!

Melissa Keir said...

I love Dr. Charley. She's amazing for research. We had a conversation about fireplay which ended in it being tried. I couldn't have seen how it was without her insights.

I did go visit a BDSM club last year as a part of a conference and listened to the speakers. It was amazing to hear from them directly. It sounds like Kim is a wonderful resource!

All the best!
Melissa
daringzoey at yahoo.com

Fran Lee said...

Wow...looks like I just met another wonderful author I need to read! Yay. Thanks so much!

Mary Preston said...

I can only imagine how interesting this research would have been.

marypres(AT)gmail(DOT)com

Lynda Bailey said...

Thank you to everyone who commented! Random number generator picked #11...Gemma Juliana...as the winner of the $10 gift card - Congrats, Gemma!
I'll be in touch sometime today. Again, thank you all for hanging out with me! ;)

Jana B said...

Enjoyed the excerpt. Thanks for the giveaway.

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