Dana Littlejohn here, multi-published author of erotic romance. Today I want to talk about fetishes, a relevant in the world of romance. I mean, honestly, how many fetishes are out there do we see in romances and how many turn us on or off? Well, I decided to explore that for a bit. Now, I’m not going to get into who likes what or what I like (never that!) I’m just going to play devil’s advocate. Because of the nature of the topic I will try to remain politically correct.
I decided to look into fetishes that men have because, well, I like men and the more I can learn about them the better my characters get. (*shrugs* that’s my line of thing anyway) When I started to look into fetishes I asked around and found that people can have a fetish about anything! Shoes, stockings, nails, hair, body parts from the top of your head to the soles of your feet! So I wondered how does one ‘get’ a fetish? I asked around about that, too, and found the answers made me go ‘hmm, I can see that’ and some made me go, ‘oookaaay, I’ll give that a nine on my strange-o-meter’ and there was even a few that I had to add to my, ‘what the hell!‘ list.
Some of the reasons were sexually based. Young boys coming into their sexuality find themselves in compromising positions with different objects as they peek in on the women they are transfixed on at the time. When they reach the goal they were trying to achieve (work with me here, I’m trying to keep this clean and politically correct.) said object becomes synonymous to that good feeling. If the behavior continues so does the connection. Over time the object in question makes you horny (can I say that?) because it reminds you of the good feeling and you’ve got yourself a fetish. Ta da! Think Pavlov’s dog.
I have examples!
One guy told me (with such lust in his voice I was getting all hot and bothered too!) how he absolutely loved high heels on his women when they have sex. He was in the closet when his sister’s friend spent the night and his, umm, appendage, (that’s a good word) was pressed against the shoes she had worn to a party as he, well, pleasured himself watching her. He could feel the shoe, but didn’t want to draw attention to himself by moving around so he left it. As an adult he makes sure his women wore shoes in bed with him because it takes him back to those good feelings.
Another guy confessed that the first time he made his girlfriend climax, he could feel her nails raking down his back so hard he could feel blood as she screamed joyfully. It took him right over the edge and he joined her in bliss. It was painful and good to him at the same time. Today he is so turned on by women with long nails because it reminds him of that moment.
Now, some of you may find these things a little weird, others may just say freaky and others maybe sensual. I don’t know. This is not psych 101 by the hands of Dana Littlejohn, by no means. But believe me people you can’t make this stuff up. Because I am very much into hands on research whenever possible, I polled close to fifty men over the age of 30. (I told them it was a survey for my sexual psychology class. LOL)
So with this new knowledge I came to two conclusions. One: men are strange! No, I’m kidding. Also the passion that some men displayed when they spoke of their fetishes led me to do a story on one. Seriously though, fetishes can derive from anything and whether they are freaky or sensual depends on your taste.
Happy Feet (available at Phaze for your reading pleasure) is for all the women who love it when a man worships them…no matter the body part.
Until next time…Dana has left the building!
Dana Littlejohn was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY, but has called Indianapolis, IN her home for over 10 years. Her love for writing started as a young girl in junior high school where she discovered her first romance novel. Falling in love with love she started writing her own ongoing story in weekly installments to entertain her friends as they passed it around the lunch room.
When she became an adult she put her love for writing on hold to do the start a family, but in 2003 with encouragement from her husband she picked up her pen again. This time she has no intention on putting it down. To date she has written 3 full length novels, 11 novellas, 36 short stories and has had her stories in 3 anthologies under her own name and a pseudo for another genre. Her do-do list grows daily and the ideas flow freely. Keep an eye out for what she has coming next. http://www.danalittlejohn.net
Kerri felt like Cinderella as her birthday arrived and a pair of shoes sat waiting at her door, but she had no Prince Charming to speak of. She had planned to thank her friend for the gift, but later found she did have a Prince waiting in the wings. And, not only did he want to slide the shoe onto her foot to see if it fit, he had plans to do so many other wonderful things to her feet.